I think in reality I view even this as yet another form of collecting.
Why do I continue to exist? To continually refine my taste and collect more of what I love in my life.
Most of all I love collecting people that I adore. People that are brilliant and kind and ambitious and principled and alive. People that are easy to be around. People that are emotionally open and honest. People that are generous and friendly. People that are lovers. People that care about how it feels to exist in the world. People with taste. People who see the world in similar enough ways to me that we can really understand one another.
And hosting, to me, seems like a wonderfully simple way of collecting more of those people that I seek. It’s hard to find what you want in this world because there is SO MUCH STUFF. So many people. How do you find the right ones? Hosting seems like a pretty good search algorithm.
My thinking goes something like this:
You start with a group of (n) people whose aesthetics and traits you absolutely love. Be very critical here in your selection. Each person must be have impeccable vibes. Importantly you trust and assume that each of these people are selective about who they choose to keep in their life as friends.
Then you begin to host events regularly and principally with these (n) people and let them get to know one another better. Then you begin to encourage each of them to bring along to the event a friend that they think would be a good fit. Immediately you now have access to (n) more potential friends. These potential friends have already been vetted by people you trust and are likely to be much much closer to you in the interests/values/traits etc. that they hold.
And then assess, keep what feels right and drop what doesn’t.
Then repeat. Grow (n) friends progressively over time and if you hold events regularly enough the search algorithm should be able to find you most of the people in your social graph that you would likely want to have as friends.
You also probably want to go seek out of distribution places, events, activities and try to find people whom your existing nodes would likely not have associations with and then connect them to your graph.
There is so much possibility here!
The hard part is of course, being a good host and finding the resolve to stick it out.